Everything about Non-penetrative Sex totally explained
Non-penetrative sex (also known as
outercourse and
dry sex) is
sexual activity without
vaginal,
anal, and possibly
oral penetration, as opposed to
intercourse. The terms
mutual masturbation and
frottage are also used, but with slightly different emphases. NPS and outercourse are rather new terms, which is why such practices are sometimes still called "intercourse".
No
bodily fluids are intended to be exchanged, and outercourse is therefore often considered a practice of
safer sex as well as of
birth control (see below for exceptions). Outercourse in preparation for intercourse can form part of
foreplay.
Types of outercourse
- Axillary intercourse, where one partner rubs his penis in the other partner's armpit, also known as bagpiping.
- Erotic massage, rubbing all over, with or without oil. May be intensified when combined with deep breathing.
- Fingering, stimulating the vagina or anus with the fingers.
- Frot, penile-penile rubbing.
- Handjob, stimulating the penis with the hand.
- Foot job, stimulating male genitals with the feet.
- Intercrural sex, also known as Interfemoral intercourse, where one partner places his penis between the other partner's thighs.
- Mammary intercourse, when one partner rubs his penis between his partner's breasts.
- Oral stimulation of nipples.
- Oral sex, using the mouth on another's genitals, though some definitions exclude oral sex as a form of outercourse due to disease risk.
- Sumata, type of stimulation of male genitals popular in Japanese brothels.
- Tribadism, vulval-vulval rubbing, also known as "scissoring."
- Virtual sex, mutual masturbation at a distance with the aid of technology.
A number of
BDSM activities don't involve penetration. However they're not generally considered under the same heading, possibly because they involve their own special risks or possibly because they're not considered substitutes for "having sex."
Risks
With oral sex, there's a higher risk of getting
sexually transmitted diseases (including
HIV) than with other forms of outercourse, but studies have shown, so far, that there's less chance of getting these diseases through oral sex than with intercourse.
One can reduce the risk of getting
sexually transmitted diseases this way by using
barrier methods. The risk of pregnancy with oral sex is only through contact between sperm-bearing fluids such as
semen or
Cowper's fluid and female sex organs, though the sex organs aren't usually in close contact with oral sex.
Interfemoral intercourse and genital rubbing, although notionally forms of outercourse, can carry a risk of
pregnancy through transfer of the sperm-bearing fluids to the sex organs, and that any of the activities above can pose a risk of
sexually transmitted diseases if any
body fluids are deposited on
wounds or
mucous membranes such as those of the sex organs or anal membranes. Skin-to-skin contact may put individuals at risk for contracting Herpes, even when no symptoms are visible.
Support from Jocelyn Elders
Dr.
Joycelyn Elders, President Bill Clinton's surgeon general, tried to popularize outercourse as a means of sexual play for teens that would offer a safer alternative than sexual intercourse involving penile-vaginal or penile-anal penetration
Mutual masturbation
Mutual masturbation is a
sexual act where two or more people stimulate themselves or one another sexually, usually with the hands.
This may be done in situations where the participants don't feel ready, physically able, or that it's socially appropriate to have full sexual intercourse, but still wish to have a mutual sexual act. It is also done as part of the full repertoire of sexual intercourse, where it may be used as an interlude, a form of
foreplay or simply as an alternative activity to penetration. For some, it's the primary sexual activity of choice above all others because it enables the individuals to see face to face and leaves the hands free to caress, as seen in frottage (see below).
Mutual masturbation can be practiced by those of all
sexual orientations. If used as an alternative to penile-vaginal penetration, the aim may be to preserve
virginity or to prevent pregnancy. Some may choose it because it achieves sexual satisfaction without actual sex, possibly seeing it as an alternative to casual sex.
The techniques of mutual masturbation resemble those of simple
masturbation, with the exception that other persons are involved. The range of participation can be as simple as two participants masturbating in the same room at the same time without any physical contact to a group of people all stimulating one another. In the case of two participants, one partner may stimulate the other, each partner may stimulate the other, or one may stimulate both themselves and their partner.
Mutual masturbation might result in one or more of the partners achieving
orgasm. If no bodily fluids are exchanged (as is common), mutual masturbation is a form of
safer sex, and greatly reduces the risk of transmission of sexual diseases. As such it was encouraged among
gay men by some safer sex organizations in the wake of the
AIDS outbreak of the
1980s, as an alternative to
anal or
oral sex.
Metaphor
The terms "mutual masturbation" and "circle jerk" are sometimes used as vulgar
metaphors. They can refer to a situation, often in the workplace, politics or academia, where people are stroking each other's ego without producing anything of value.
Frottage
Frottage, more commonly known as
dry humping, is the act of achieving sexual pleasure with a partner or partners, whether naked or clothed, without penetration. This can include using almost every part of the body, including the buttocks, the breasts, abdomen, thighs, feet, hands, legs, and sexual organs. Frottage can include mutual genital rubbing, sometimes called
genito-genital or
GG rubbing and most of the other forms of non-penetrative sex.
There are many reasons a couple may choose frottage. The most common reasons are as a form of foreplay before intercourse or as a method to achieve sexual gratification without the more sexually explicit (and in some circumstances, forbidden) oral or vaginal sexual intercourse. Often young people will use frottage as an earlier stage of sexual intimacy before more explicit contact is desired, or as a substitute to intercourse to maintain a higher degree of chastity. Also, frottage can be done without getting undressed, and perhaps this is preferable. Panties, bras, pantyhose, socks, or stockings can aid in sexual arousal and stimulation.
Lap dances often involve clothed frottage. A modern dancing style which involves partners rubbing their clothed bodies on one another is called "
grinding," "freaking," or "Sandwich dancing" and in Caribbean cultures where it's more accepted, it's referred to as "wining" or "flexing", known in the
Spanish speaking territories as "perrear" ("dogging"). Much of West Indian music (esp. Jamaican Dancehall and Trinidad and Tobago's Soca, pronounced SOH-cah) makes frequent references to this style of dance.
Etymology
The term
frottage derives from the French verb
frotter, "to rub."
Important distinctions in terminology
Three distinct terms derive from the French verb
frotter, "to rub," that are not to be confused:
frottage: The sexual act, involving rubbing, described in this section
frotteurism: a paraphilia involving obsession with frottage or performing frottage nonconsensually (for example, pressing one's genitals against a stranger on a crowded subway). This behavior was once called "frottage" but that use is no longer accepted.
frot: Refers exclusively to male-male genital rubbing without penetration. Confusingly, "frottage" is sometimes shortened to "frot" in informal use.
Part of the reason for the confusion is that consensual frottage may have once been considered a perversion and lumped in with non-consensual frotteurism. This view is no longer widely held. The 1995 book Eccentric and Bizarre Behaviors by Louis R. Franzini and Jon Squires declares frottage, in the appropriate context, to be a perfectly normal sexual behavior for anyone "male or female, homosexual or heterosexual."
Chikan (痴漢, チカン, or ちかん) is a Japanese term for frotteurism, or someone who commits such an act. The term is frequently used to describe men, who take advantage of the crowded conditions on the public transit systems to rub against women sexually. While the term isn't defined in the Japanese legal system, vernacular usage of the word describes acts that violate several laws. Although women on crowded trains in Japan are the most frequent targets of chikan, sexual predators in Japan can take advantage of people of either sex in other situations as well.
Colloquialisms
"dry humping": two people engaging in clothed sex in a manner that simulates intercourse.
"scrumping": a colloquialism for dry humping. A portmanteau of scratchy and humping.
"grinding", "dubbing", or "freaking": a modern dancing style that involves partners rubbing their clothed bodies on one another.
"frotteur geek": a colloquialism for a person with a devotion to a typical scenario for frottage.
"Princeton rub", "Ivy League rub", and so on: gay slang terms, referring to male-male frot or interfemoral intercourse or both, presumably surviving from the days when these colleges only admitted men.Further Information
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